1/9Do you have a narcissistic parent? Here’s how to know!
People you stay with are bound to have an impact on you and your personality, especially if they are related to you like a parent, partner or sibling. Toxic relationships can immensely affect your mental health. In such a situation, dealing with a narcissistic parent can also hamper the relationship, requiring years of therapy to heal the damage.
For the parent, their child being independent and unlike how they imagined can be quite threatening and this causes them to cut off the relationship dynamics altogether. Here are some common tell-tale signs which can help you point out the difference between a healthy and a threatening relationship:
2/9Parents live through their children’s lives
Many children grow up with the fear of living up to their parents’ expectations, who for their own selfish needs and enforce their own wishes on their children, creating mental stress and dilemma for them. This can be quite troublesome and limit the child from developing their own personality.
3/9Jealousy and possessiveness
Another common trait which is associated with narcissistic people is jealousy and possessiveness. There can be examples when the parent can feel threatened by the child’s growth and maturity. Any time the child doesn’t spend fulfilling the parent’s wishes is seen negatively. It often ends up guilt-tripping the child to limit their own life and devote more time to the parent, which is rather unhealthy.
4/9Parents critique and put the child down
For children, their parents are the closest contact as well as their biggest motivators but when they live in the shadow of a narcissistic parent, constant critique and putting down can impair their self-esteem. Most common examples of this behaviour include nitpicking, invalidation, baseless comparisons and simply saying that the child is not just good enough!
5/9They maintain a superior self-image
More than the child itself, the parent also sometimes displays behaviour of superiority and treat the people around them as objects, using them for personal gain. The sense of superficiality arises from having an inflated ego and can be very damaging for the child, giving rise to trust issues as well.